Hi everyone! I know it’s been a hot minute, but I’m back with a new post! I’ve been chomping at the bit to get back to writing, but I’ve been having a tough time (I’ll elaborate in a later post). Not to mention, my computer decided to freak out for a while and I couldn’t figure out how to fix it.
Today I’m coming to you with a motivational quote that I feel is very appropriate for this time of year. The holidays can be difficult for plenty of reasons, but for many it’s the dread that comes from family gatherings. Many people hate seeing family because of a toxic or even abusive situation, but feel obligated to show up just because it’s the holidays. So here’s my quote for you:
I know, we feel obligated to show up and be civil because it’s the holidays, but how likely is it that these toxic people are going to rein in their stupidity? Not very. But you continue to show up in the hopes that they’ll just shut the eff up for ONE DAY, or even better, change their behavior.
It’s very difficult to ignore hurtful comments, especially when they come from people who are supposed to love us. Remember that little rhyme from elementary school:
“I’m rubber, you’re glue. Whatever you say bounces off me and sticks to you”?
What they say about you or their attitudes toward you say more about them than it does about you. They’re projecting their own insecurities on you. They’re showing THEIR shortcomings, not yours.
My controversial opinion: If you find it too difficult to ignore these people and they’re asinine behavior, don’t go (or at least cut the visit short). It sounds selfish, but sometimes making the decision to put yourself and your feelings first IS taking the high road. This time of year is meant to fill us with a sense of peace and hope, not guilt and dread. Instead, spend it with people who reciprocate your love, instead of trying to just put up with or change people who are “supposed” to love you, but really don’t.
Thanks for reading, and until next time!